Posted 14 February 2012 - 10:35 AM
You know, while I completely GET the feelings of WANTING to destroy the computer for a child being disrespectful in her use of it, I think that a rational adult may stop to think that this is also not teaching the child to be respectful of both the money (hard work) that it tookSOMEONE to purchase it, and the property itself.
My step daughter was also recently caught using both her cell phone and notepad that we got her in an inappropriate manner. What she did was so out there, that we had to take action to ensure that a....this could not happen again and b...give the message that inappropriate behavior does bear severe consequences. My husband and I together decided that the notepad was gone for the foreseeable future ... She has access to a computer if needed for school only now, in the living room and only when supervised directly by one of us. The cell phone, os a totally unnecessary luxoury, and has been taken away from her permanently.
I said I get what the man was feeling, because I felt the same I think when it happened here, I wanted to smash the computer and cell phone. But, to me, that would send the message that it os ok to fly in a fit of rage and destroy something....which it is not. Honestly, what saved us from doing that was sending her to her room, and us going to ours to take a few hours to calm down and be able to call her out and discuss it reasonably. Of course, she being a teen did not think that the loss of her items was REASONABLE, but that is her issue, not ours.
I never shake my fist at "teens these days" because although it's been a long time since I was one, I have had the opportunity to be involved with MANY great ones in my kids' outside activities. All kids can be fantastic, and all of them have the potential to do something inappropriate. They may look and sound grown, but we need to remember that they can be very impulsive and do things rashly, and regret later. As the adults, we have to try and model the behavior we desire, and hope that with guidance and redirection and more patience the I personally a can muster most days, that they will come out of their teen years ok.
That is why, I believe it may have not been the best choice for that man to shoot the laptop.
For the record, I was born and raised in Windsor/LaSalle. My dad was a hunter, so we always had guns in the house, though I do not and will not now. I was taught by him how to fire a rifle in my early teens, it knocked me on my butt a few times....it isn't the gun that is the problem....it is the mentality of the owner. Much the same, it isn't the computer, cell phone iPod or what have you that is the problem.....it is the user's good or poor choices.