My son has a friend from our old house here in Green Bay. He is in a single parent household, so I offered to help Mom when I could – like picking him up from school, taking him to band practice, etc. Well, we moved across town in April, which makes traveling to run “errands” for her a lot more costly and time consuming. She has never offered gas money.
Now she is being evicted from her apartment because she was on medical leave, the money from the insurance company wasn’t coming in on time, so she got behind and the apartment complex Landlord wouldn’t work with her. She has a new job, just started last week, had the court date with the Landlord on yesterday and didn’t go. She doesn’t know when she has to be out of the Apartment. She had a possible living situation, but that feel through. In previous conversations, she knows that our upstairs neighbor is going to be going through an eviction process as well. The Mom needs a place to store her stuff and asked me about where I keep my stuff. Now she expects me to contact the Owner to find out if has space available, as well as contacting my Landlord to see what the possibility of renting our upstairs is.
I don’t want them on the streets, but frankly, I am tired of her always “using” me to do her stuff. I am not “friends” with this Mom, but I am friendly with her. There have been times when I have gotten the vibe when talking with her that she “tolerates” me being there.
Also, there is a Renaissance Fair this weekend and for the 1st time in as far back as I cannot remember … my husband has agreed to go with me and the boys to something as a family. When I saw her today she made mention that she would need our help this weekend to move. Had I not seen her today picking up my oldest, I wonder when she would have “asked” me for help. Granted, I did volunteer to help her move, I just thought she would have given us a time frame like saying “Hey, if your offer is still good, would be great if you could help move us this weekend”.
So my dilemma is: 1) Do I ask for gas money considering she is going to be “homeless”? 2) Do I let her know that we can help her move on Saturday after my husband gets off of work, but we can’t on Sunday? 3) Do I call the storage place and my Landlord to ask the questions she should be asking?
IF you actually got to the questions …. WOW – Thank You ! ! ! I do NOT need any debates, I just need some rational scenarios for help.