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Posted 12 July 2007 - 02:43 PM

RULES & GUIDELINES

First and foremost, we want Mom2Mom to be a place where members can have fun, gain support, and make friends. Our Rules & Guidelines were developed with the following principles in mind:
- to encourage a friendly, supportive atmosphere where friendships can be developed.
- to be as fair as possible to all members
- to create clear rules of thumb to ensure as much fairness as possible in administering the guidelines.

1. We ask that we all stay on topic and remember to play nice. A good rule of thumb is to use only words and tone which you would use speaking to a friend face to face and which you know will heard by hundreds of others. Remember that posts can be easily misunderstood and be careful about the words you choose. We appreciate friendly discussion and exchanges of views and ideas but do not encourage overly heated debates or going around in endless circles as we are here to support each other, not fight with each other. We expect our members to be mature enough to agree to disagree.

If the above guidelines are not followed, Mods/Admin will follow this protocol:
1. Mod/Admin will post in thread reminding members of the applicable guideline. Mod/Admin will also try to offer suggestions as to how to keep discussions civil. Members with interpersonal problems will be reminded to take it up privately and members having problems with the forums will be reminded to post a constructive suggestion in the Suggestion Forum.
2. Mod/Admin will warn members that if this continues after the reminder, the thread will be closed.
3. If members continue, the thread will be closed.


2. "Personal attacks" are not welcome on this site. What do we mean by personal attacks? Any time a member is insulted or degraded as a human being. What is not considered "personal attacks" is vehement opposition to the members ideas or opinions *provided that opposition does not cross the line into personal attacks*. (However note the guideline about heated topics)

The following are examples:
UNACCEPTABLE:
" Mary, I think you're a total slob of a parent"
" Jayne, you're an idiot if you think the sky is red"
" Suzie, you're husband is a total jerk"
" what a stupid way to think"

ACCEPTABLE:
" Mary, you and I have completely different ways of parenting and I don't agree with yours so lets just leave it at that"
" Jayne, I've never thought of the sky as being red, to me it looks blue"
" Suzie, I've never met your husband"
" I disagree "

If the above guidelines are not followed, Mods/Admin will follow this protocol:
1. Mod will post in the topic stating that it is under review. Members will be instructed not to comment on the insult in the thread (but can PM the Mod with any comments) or their comments will be edited without warning.
2. Mod will PM the member offering an opportunity to retract/edit the insult or offer an explanation. The deadline for this is 1 hour from the time the PM was sent.
3. If the Mod discusses the situation with the Member and/or other Mods/Admin and decides the comment does not fall under this guideline, the review will be retracted and the comment left
4. If Mod determines the comment to be a personal attack (at mod discretion) and the comment is not retracted before deadline, the Mod will edit the comment.
**If a member is required to edit posts for personal attacks 3x or more within a 1 month period they will receive a 24 hour suspension.**


3. Please do not use the forums as a vehicle to complain or post non-productive things that only serve to divide and upset the membership. If you have any problems with any of these guidelines or the way things are handled on the website, we will be able to help if you post your problem WITH your preferred solution in the Suggestion Forum. (Anything else will be removed immediately without warning). This will be open to member discussion for a short time, then closed and discussed by Admin. If you have problems with the way a Moderator has performed his/her duties, you may report it to any Admin Team member. If you have a problem with an Admin Team member, please report to any (or all) of the other Admin Team members. We recognize that we are all human and may not act perfectly at all times which is why we welcome your feedback and constructive criticism.

If the above guidelines are not followed, Mods will follow this protocol:
1. Mod will close the post immediately with no warning
2. Mod will post reason for closure in the thread
3. Mod will send member a PM informing them of the closure and offer alternative suggestions. Members with interpersonal problems will be reminded to take it up privately and members having problems with the forums will be reminded to post a constructive suggestion in the Suggestion Forum.
4. if member continues, member is disciplined.

**If a member is involved in 3 situations above, immediate discipline ensues without reminder**

3b. Absolutely no threats ,intimidation or harassment are to be used against members, moderators or admin.People have differing opinions and you are welcome to respectfuly disagree, but threats, intimidation or harassment that is directed at members either in the public M2M forum or in PM will be dealt with immediately.

If the above guidelines are not followed, Mods/Admin. will follow this protocol:
1. Mod will edit the post immediately with no warning
2. Mod will post reason for edit in the thread
3. Mod will send member a PM informing them of the edit and the member will be given a warning. Members with interpersonal problems will be reminded to take it up privately (WITHOUT resorting to threats or intimidation).
4. If the threat was sent via PM and a member reports it, admin. will use their discretion regarding discipline.

**If a member is involved in 3 situations above, the member's account will be suspended for a minimum of 6 months**

5. Advertising/solicitation on forums:
Any business (home or retail) will not be allowed to INITIATE advertising unless it is a paying sponsor for the website just like many other website forums. What is considered business? - Any business that is set up for the purpose of profit-making. This includes, but is not restricted to, any exchange of money for services/sales whether for business or hobby purposes. This is to be fair to our paying sponsors as we rely on sponsors to help pay for the site and its services.

Posts looking for input about possible business ventures will be allowed, however any posts relating to goods or services for sale, or linking to personal websites where goods or services for profit-making are listed will not be allowed.

Businesses will be allowed to respond if it comes up in the conversation thread and recommendations of non-sponsors are allowed in matters that come up as a part of the conversation. Non-sponsors are NOT allowed to post advertising-only posts, only to respond to queries that come up as part of the conversation.

There is an exception for home daycare providers who wish to post ads in the childcare forum.

If the above guidelines are not followed, Mods/Admin will follow this protocol:
1. Mod/Admin will remove the post immediately without warning and post a closed FYI thread with reason for removal.
2. Mod/Admin will send the member a PM informing them of the removal and directing them towards other solutions (become a sponsor, etc etc)
3. Member is noted as having been reminded.
4. If action is repeated, member will be disciplined


QUOTE
FORUM ADVERTISING - $45/3 MONTHS OR $90/YEAR

- Sponsors can add up to 3 lines of advertising in your signature

- Sponsors must include the following disclaimer in your signature: "This is a paid advertising message from a Mom2mom Sponsor. Please support our sponsors who help to keep this a FREE website for you."

- Sponsors will be allowed to have 2 advertising-only posts per week and two bumps per week maximum to promote your business. When posting, please include the words, "sponsor ad" in the topic description. More than one representative per company is allowed for additional flexibility.

- Sponsors receive additional options in their signature, including larger space and larger photos. The signature guidelines for sponsors are as follows:
300hx500w with no tickers
or 250hx500w picture with one ticker
or 175hx500w picture with two tickers
or 2 tickers max with 3 blinkers in a row below
or 3 tickers stacked on top of each other
]

- Sponsors will have "Forum Sponsor" listed in their "Group" under their username to provide extra publicity and acknowledgement.

- Sponsors will have a larger PM box (can store 400 messages - double the member size)

- Sponsors will be allowed to use their business names as their usernames for the duration of the sponsorship period. As always, non-sponsoring members are not allowed to use business/occupation related usernames to be fair to our paying sponsors.

- Sponsors receive a Pre-Sale Pass to attend the popular Mom2Mom Sales. The Pre-Sale Pass allows holders to skip the lineup and gain free admission before the sale opens to the public.


6. We do not allow the following kinds of posts: Spam, Advertising (as considered by the above Advertising Guideline), pornographic or vulgar material.

If the above guidelines are not followed, Mods/Admin will follow this protocol:
1. Mod/Admin will remove the post immediately without warning and post a closed FYI thread with reason for removal.
2. Mod/Admin will send the member a PM informing them of the removal and directing them towards other solutions (become a sponsor, etc etc)
3. Member is noted as having been reminded.
4. If action is repeated, member will be disciplined


7. Anonymous postings can ONLY be used when there are valid reasons to remain anonymous, e.g. personal questions that are difficult to ask and where you do not wish to be known. Good examples are if asking questions about your husband and you do not wish marital problems to be public knowledge or if you are struggling with depression and feel embarrassed and do not wish to be known. Anonymous postings have to be approved by a mod before it will be made visible so please be patient with the inevitable time lag.

If an anonymous post is not approved, Mods/Admin will follow this protocol:
1. Post a CLOSED FYI topic stating that there was an anon post that was not approved. This way "anon" knows that their post was not approved.

8. Signature/Tickers/Avatars

Members will be allowed signatures that are no larger than:

250hx500w picture with no tickers
or 175hx500w picture with one ticker
or 2 tickers max with 3 blinkies in a row below
or 3 tickers stacked on top of each other

Sponsoring members will be allowed signatures that are no larger than:

300hx500w with no tickers
or 250hx500w picture with one ticker
or 175hx500w picture with two tickers
or 2 tickers max with 3 blinkies in a row below
or 3 tickers stacked on top of each other

No links to any websites unless required for copyright reasons. PERSONAL websites related to members ONLY can be linked from personal user profiles.

Also "Statement Blinkies or Signatures or Avatars must meet certain requirements: Your personal choices are allowed (ie. My baby is a boobaholic, I love Liberals, I am a vegetarian and proud), however, any references that pertain negatively to other people's life choices or compare your choice to somebody elses, will NOT be allowed (ie Cats are better than dogs, Anybody who votes for Liberals are crazy, Meat eaters are animal killers)."

If the above guidelines are not followed, Mods/Admin will follow this protocol:
1. Mod/Admin will PM the member. The deadline for change is the next weekday, after 8am at mod discretion (and exactly when during that weekday would be up to the mod discretion - if the mod is on at 8am, it will be handled at 8am - the mod should not have to wait for the member. If the mod waits till 1pm, thats okay too).
2. After deadline, Admin will remove any material needed and send the member a PM informing them of the removal.
3. Member is noted as having been reminded.
4. If action is repeated, member will be disciplined


9. Please be careful not to use these forums to ruin reputations.
The forums are here to share opinions and personal experiences from one parent to another. In doing so, please remember that it can also be an easy vehicle to spread gossip and unverified assumptions. To avoid this, particularly in the case of professionals like doctors, members will be allowed to post personal experiences only, not hearsay. Negative opinions are allowed as long as they are not personally attacking the doctor or who/what ever the opinion is about.

The following are examples:
UNACCEPTABLE:
"my neighbours daughter took her boyfriends kid there and they said he did......."
"he is a quack"
"he is a jerk"
"he is an ass"

ACCEPTABLE:
"He made a misdiagnosis with my son/daughter"
"I found that he was rude to me."
"I found the office dirty"
"My opinion was that he acted unprofessionally"

If the above guidelines are not followed, Mods/Admin will follow this protocol:
1. Mod will post in the topic stating that it is under review. Members will be instructed not to comment on the insult in the thread (but can PM the Mod with any comments) or their comments will be edited without warning.
2. Mod will PM the member offering an opportunity to retract/edit the insult or offer an explanation. The deadline for this is 1 hour from the time the PM was sent.
3. If the Mod discusses the situation with the Member and/or other Mods/Admin and decides the comment does not fall under this guideline, the review will be retracted and the comment left
4. If Mod determines the comment to be a personal attack (at mod discretion) and the comment is not retracted before deadline, the Mod will edit the comment.


DISCIPLINE
Discipline will be administered in 4 stages and the slate is not wiped clean unless decided on unanimously by all administrators in special circumstances. The above system is set up with many reminders and many second chances and it should be extremely difficult to progress up the stages.
1) 24 hour suspension
2) 1 week suspension
3) 30 days
4) 1 year suspension or possible lifetime ban at the discretion of admin.

MOD/ADMIN DISCIPLINE
Mods and Admin of this site are expected to be fully aware of our Rules and Guidelines and to uphold them in all situations. Therefore, Mods/Admin who break any of these guidelines will not receive a warning/reminder but will immediately face disciplinary actions.