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Posted 30 January 2008 - 08:47 AM

someone needs to start this!

I am guessing this is a place to share our trials, tribulations and successes.

I'm a single working mom of a 4 year old, I work 40 a week (8-5) take 3 credits at the U.

I work in the central/west side of the city.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 08:54 AM

I (and my dh) work full time, 35 hours PLUS evening meetings, I take work home in the evenings and weekends (mainly reading). I have a middle managment position. That means that I cannot bank any of my overtime to use at a later date, but I am compensated with a higher salary.

I commute to work - 30 min. I workout before I got to work at home (run, bike and weights) and I will also go to the gym (swim) during my lunches. I have 2 kids (ages 8 and 11) and they go to a school 45 min away from where I work.

Weeknights and weekends are VERY VALUABLE TIME for me. This is when I try to arrange to kids activities and family time.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 08:59 AM

I work Full time 5 days a wk in Leamington, live in Windsor so I have a good drive every day. I work in Nursing and LOVE my job and the ppl I work with.

I also just started selling Avon as well for extra income and I now am a House Party Coordinator for Body & Life Detox parties.

Both my dd's are in school one 1/2 days and the other full days. I wish I had more time with them.

Dh is 4 days a wk his hours got cut 1 1/2 yrs ago. He was full time and over time every week which we miss dearly. He also has a side bussiness for computer repair, he teaches as well. He is a true and pure GEEK, but a cute one.


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Posted 30 January 2008 - 09:52 AM

Hi!

I work for a major transportation company in a national accounts sales role. I would say my avg work week is probably more like 50 hrs as I am often taking calls/emails into the evening hours. I also do out of town travelling within Canada and trips to the US so I am away on avg 1-2 nights per week. I try to only have 3 out of 4 weeks a month where I am away so I am home for that remaining full week.

When in Windsor, I can work from home though so that is a huge benefit. Its nice to be able to throw a load of laundry in, etc while juggling a work day all at the same time.

My dh works part-time for the same company in Windsor but he also owns his own photography business so he is busy in the evenings/weekends with that work.

At times, it seems very chaotic. dd is 19 mths and goes to day care M-F but sometimes only in the mornings until dh gets home. I also have 2 step kids who are here Friday evening thru Monday morning and sometimes come for a night during the week.

Balancing our work and family lives is a HUGE challenge for us and is VERY stressful at times. But we love what we do and in the end, I think its been the right choice for us. I'm really looking forward to reading how everyone else does it and greatful for the support during those crazy times.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 09:54 AM

I have my own lawn care and snow removal business. "Tomboy Mow & Snow" (although everyone questions the "TOMBOY" part of it ... I really am!)

I was riding my mower up to a week overdue with my ds last summer .... then jumped back on and went back to work 5 days after I delivered him.

Everyone thought I was nuts ... but hey, it's GREAT exercise & I felt wonderful!

Thank God my dh is self-employed as well ... so that someone can always be home with my ds (who's 7.5 months)

Great new forum, BTW!

Jen R


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Posted 30 January 2008 - 09:56 AM

I work full-time in a job that I (usually) love. I do work the occasional evening or weekend event, but my hours are flexible enough to allow me to make up for that whenever it suits. I find my work personally rewarding and love the sense of pride and accomplishment that comes along with making a contribution to society, my household, and still being a wife and mother. smile.gif

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 09:57 AM

Oh ... and I must add ...

I have to give HUGE credit for moms who work full-time + hours AND take care of a family! I'm learning it's not easy (even working the few hours a week I do).

And for the SAHM's (which is NOT an easy job in ANY way, shape or form), hats off to you too! I know that it in itself is a Full-time + job!

Way to go moms!

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 10:04 AM

I work full-time M-F. The type of work I do does not allow me to give many details. It is a gov't job. My hours can be semi-flexible which allows me to take time away from work to tend to the odd kids activities/emergencies. I also am am on-call for after hour emergencies about once/per month so I have to have a back-up plan in the event I am called out in the middle of the night.



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Posted 30 January 2008 - 10:04 AM

(thanks Lisa ... smooches)

Well, I'm a full-time worker. I work in fundraising and event planning for a local charity. So a normal week is about 35 hours, but with events/meetings....it varies.

I love my job!!! Many of my events are child centred, and I can involve my family in them. My dh is SUPER supportive of my position...actually he's proud of me, which in turn makes me love him more. It's nice to be appreciated, but even more to be someone he's proud of!

The guys are 5 and 6, and are in school 1/2 day and full day. So for the younger, he attends Montessori for the other half of the day, then both are there for about an hour for the after school program.

My hours are flexible, and I'm grateful. But there never seems to be enough time.



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Posted 30 January 2008 - 10:04 AM

I work full-time ... 35-45 hours a week with my daycare children actually here smile.gif I work another bunch of hours doing cleaning, purchasing toys, researching ideas, curriculum, making circle time props and more cleaning! I have had a home daycare for 5.5 years! I hope to work less hours in the summer though smile.gif this is the perfect mix for our family. Dh works sporadic hours and could never be counted on for pick-up/drop-offs for daycare, So it works for us to have me home BUT contributing financially!

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 10:47 AM

I work 21 hours as week part time ( on a leave). I work Wed _friday full days.
Next year or very soon I may return full time. I just have to give 2 weeks notice to go back full time.
I work at a catholic school in Windsor with special needs students.


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Posted 30 January 2008 - 11:18 AM

I work 40-48 hours a week on swing shift (when not layed off) at a factory. I really enjoy my job but they don't care at all about the workers home life. I missed a day to to Emmy being sick and got an RU (reason unacceptable), too many of those you get a suspension, luckily I don't normally get many so the odd one here or there won't hurt. Emmy goes to school next year for half days, and I am already feeling the guilt of it.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 11:57 AM

Well I am not sure where I fit in- I am a working mom but I too work from my home. I run a daycare from my house- It is full time hours from 7:30 until 5:30 monday - Friday. I also work for a plastics plant - just helping out with parts- and I am also a consultant.
so I am a stay at home mom but I also work at home.....

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 12:34 PM

I'm Laura and I am a department manager. I am on mat leave right now but go back in April which is approaching very fast. I work 40-45 hours a week. I work 5 days a week-3 day shifts, one afternoon and 1 evening. I try to work every other weekend. I have 4 children. The 3 boys are 13, 10, and 8 plus my baby girl who is 10 months now. My husband also works full time. We do our best to try to do opposite shifts so we need the less childcare as possible. I would love to stay home but a good job with good wages is hard to give up. Sometimes I love my job and sometimes I hate it. I am always there for my children when they need me. My job is good that way and I make my own schedule which helps. Being organized is the number one way for me to do this. Great to have everyone to chat with.....laura

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 12:39 PM

i have 3 girls, 18, 14 and 8...i worked outside the home for their whole lives. i worked in the automotive industry for 18 years dealing with swing shifts for half of that time, and midnights for the last 8 years. as some of you know i was injured on the job and now am a full time student at the University. i feel as tho i still fit in here more now than ever with the work load of my classes. i juggle school life and alot of my studies are done at home so self discipline plays a huge role (i will take any advice on that, lol). its not easy to work outside of the house but i always looked forward to going back to work after having my children. (after maternity leave of course). for me it was always important to not be dependent on my spouse, i had a rough marriage and when i finally left it was my job that gave me the opportunity to have sanity and financial stability to start my life over. i too give hats off to those who stay home, it wasnt for me tho. i looked forward to my days at work to find myself and be more than just a mom, that was important to me. now my life is taking another turn and i am so glad that i am not disabled to the degree that i have to stay home and i can go on to be productive in society, thats very important to me and important for me to show my girls that as women we have the choice. i hope i havent offended anyone, these are of course my reasons for working and in no way is to say that any other style of parenting isnt wonderful as well, thats what makes us all individual and makes the world so interesting!

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 01:21 PM

I'm Aubrey

I work full-time for Sutherland Global services as call rep

I take 3 classes at St Clair College

My SO works full-time as a Tool and Dye worker. He is on swing of 4 weeks of days, 4 weeks of afternoons and 4 weeks of midnights.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 01:30 PM

I am technically not working, per say, but I am a full time student, and there is A LOT of work invovled with that! I think mostly everyone knows what I am taking! smile.gif I go full days Monday, Tues, Thurs, and part of the day the other 2.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 01:36 PM

Hey, I'm Barb smile.gif I work pt which is anywhere from 24-40 hrs a week(usually) and my dh is fulltime but picks up an extra day a week to TRY and compensate for my financial loss of being part-time. I would LOVE to be full-time again as it would guarantee me certain days off but steadily and I could start doing some classes with my dd! As it stands now, my hours can be anything at all since I work at the casino and of course, it is open 24/7 - 365 days/yr. Since my hours vary, it is a challenge to find a balance between, "me" time, hubby time, family time, one-on-one with my dd time and time for friends and other family. Sadly, my social life is sacrificed first but my closest and dearest friends will always remain close to me no matter how much time I can physically spend with them <3 IT is still a challenge to feel connected to everyone though... especially those without kids or those with children that are at a more independant stage. My dd is 2 smile.gif


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Posted 30 January 2008 - 01:48 PM

April/May I will be returning full-time 8:30 - 5 as a programmer/analyst. Although with the commute from Harrow I am gone more like 7:30 to 6. It is a long day, but I don't work weekends unless it is an absolute emergency. I have found that it is difficult to go back for the first few months, but everyone adjusts and I cherish the time that I am home with the kids a lot more.

I find the hardest part of working is actually finding a caregiver that works with our family.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 02:06 PM

I'm Tamara. I am a retail manager in Devonshire Mall. I work full-time and commute from the burg. My dh is at the casino. He works full time and has been picking up extra shifts and overtime. My husband and I work opposite shifts to try to cut down on the childcare costs. One child is in school full days and one is in school every other day. They both go to afterschool care. My schedule is pretty rigid. Either one of us has the child/ren when the other is at work. We have 1 day off together which we try to do family things but, lately he's been working. I can't wait until ds is in school full time! THen dh can hopefully switch to days and we can have more time and $$!

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 02:08 PM

I'm a single mommy of a 6month old son. Currently on maternity leave but still attending law school part-time 4 days a week. I'm also doing a 'for school credit' assignment teaching a law class at a Detroit high school 2 afternoons a week. I also volunteer with an Animal Law Group and various speaking engagements for technical career fairs and workplace safety for high school students. I'll be returning to my job as a plant manager in August -- there's a commute, very long hours, travel, and 24/7 on call. I'm still trying to figure out how/if I'm going to wear all the hats -- mommy, student, manager, volunteer -- but I'm sure I'll find lots of support in this new forum.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 02:25 PM

I too work full time in the transportation field in recruiting.

I have 2 sons 13 and 7.

I am a divorced mom.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 02:27 PM

Not exactly sure where I fit it since sometimes I'm a sahm, and sometimes I work. I had only been working about 4 months per year every year (taxes) but when dh lost his job I needed more. So I took a night job at McD for about a year. Dh's new job didn't allow me to continue that so I've mainly been home since May (do a few vacation fill ins here and there). Now I'm back for taxes and after that I will have to look for work again. Come Monday though I won't be able to check M2M at work:( I'll be working about 48 hours per week I think. My kids are a little bigger 12, almost 10 and 7 so they are all in school full time now. And dh works fulltime too.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 03:25 PM

I work mon-fri 6am to 2pm...

i work oppsite shifts from my hubby who works from 2-midnight, and some weekends so that somone is always home with the kids, since neither of them are in school yet.

lukily my job is very flexble since I do have to take a lot of time off to deal with lilia's special needs.

i find whats hardest is that i rarely see my husband and we have almost no alone time together.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 05:09 PM

I work full time as a personal assistant to one of our sponsors here on M2M.. Anglin Financial Management (Alynn) My hours are 9-4:30 and some days I find it hard juggling everything but for the most part it is a good balance of work and home!

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 05:35 PM

I work 35 hours per week, but my hours are very flexible. I try to work more on days when dh is home, and less on days when he is working. Between the two of us, our children spend very little time in day care and after school progamming. I have very little work past 5 pm and work no week=ends. Most of the time I feel I have a good balance between family and work. My DH works 11 hour shifts. So, that helps with having time together.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 07:45 PM

I hate my job...I work too much but I get to stay home with ds during the day as I work evenings and weekends. I am currently trying to get my daycare off the ground ...FINALLY

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 07:55 PM

I work part time 3 days a week at the University doing administrative work for a few grad level programs. I like my job and I like my office. I am in the middle of looking for full time work as I graduate in June.

I like working - my only beef is that it is more difficult to maintain a good relationship with the school and the teachers.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 08:16 PM

Hi..mom to 3(well one part time) ...and I work two "jobs"...Dh works 3am-1pm and I work 2pm -10 pm about 4-5 days a week.
Since we work opposite shifts,we dont need childcare,but then again...we dont see each other much...sad.gif
Thinking of going down to one real,not McJOB...and going to get my MBA part time...just need to come up with all the $$$ needed to get it!!!
I find keeping up with household stuff is the hardest..as Id rather spend my time with the girls in the morning rather than cleaning.Im lucky I have a great DH who finds caring for his girls to be the greatest thing!!!

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 08:47 PM

Well, I am on mat. leave right now but will return in August for the rest of my life, LOL! I have 2 kids, work 35 hours a week. I enjoy my job and the routine of going every day, my only prob. is the dh, he does NOTHING to help whether I am working or not and I don't know how I will handle it when I go back with 2 kids, a house, and a job to take care of.

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Posted 30 January 2008 - 09:17 PM

I work fulltime 40's week mon-thurs afternoon and sunday days I like havinf friday and saturday off but i hate working afternoons my hubby works 45 hrs a week he works in the states he starts at 3am and home at 1:30 PM SO I can go to work..we share the cleasning but I make all the meals love the slowcooker..

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Posted 31 January 2008 - 09:13 AM

I am a full-time working mom- 24 hours/ week as an Office Manager for our family business, and MANY more as a mom, wife, housekeeper, active volunteer at my son's school, and multi-tasker at home. My paying job has allowed me flexible hours since my son was born, and for that I have been truly blessed. I feel like I've had the very best of both worlds and have appreciated the ability to juggle and wear many different hats. That said, next year I will be returning to the office 40 hours/ week and remain optimistic that I will still be able to keep up with the rest of the responsibilities that I've taken on.

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Posted 31 January 2008 - 04:17 PM

I am a Manager at a bingo hall. I work 45+ hours a week and I constantly rotate shifts at work. Some weeks I work midnights, days and afternoons all in one week!
I am constantly exhausted and depend on Timmies to keep me going!

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Posted 10 February 2008 - 09:04 AM

QUOTE(hugsnkisses @ Jan 30 2008, 01:36 PM) View Post
Since my hours vary, it is a challenge to find a balance between, "me" time, hubby time, family time, one-on-one with my dd time and time for friends and other family. Sadly, my social life is sacrificed first but my closest and dearest friends will always remain close to me no matter how much time I can physically spend with them <3


I could of written that as well!

Im Jenn, and i work anywhere from 32-48 hrs a week at a motel doing front desk. Since we never close, and are short staffed, my shifts vary from week to week, so it makes planning anything very hard. I miss my girls, as i dont drive, so when i work a back to back shift, i often spend the night at my work as to avoid having to commute by bus or taxi in the am to work. ($$$) I would love to stay home, but as of now, we need both of our incomes, so it has to be what it is.


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Posted 10 February 2008 - 10:07 AM

I'm the same as most of you.... I work full-Time and so does DH. I have a 10,7 and 3 yr old. Life is very busy for us as well.... with DH working shift work and our boys playing sports-- Hockey 5 days a week--not including tournements-- and now my oldest DS started travel Soccer about a month ago--so we are overlapping sports right now. A little insite to one of my busier days when DH is on Afternoons.....I usually get home around 4pm, rush to feed the kids and do homework because we have to be at the hockey arena for 4:30pm for practice from 5-6pm, then it's off to drop Oldest DS off at Soccer practice at 6:30. Rush home to give the other 2 baths and finish homework with my middle DS. Then we go out and pick up Oldest DS at 8:15. Come home and read books to the kids and then it nighty night around 9:00pm. but then again... this is not everyday. I give sooo much credit to single moms who do this everyday! bow2.gif

Would I every change working so much... I thought about it LOL... It would definately be nice to be able to wash my floors twice a week and never have mountains of Laundry waiting for me when I get a day off but then I don't think we could afford to be able to let our kids do all the things they do. This is why I work. I think once DD sarted school in the fall.... It should get alittle better.

Hugs to all who have had those days when they just don't think they can do it anymore...Believe me...I'm pretty sure everyone have thought this once or twice.... I know I have!!! grouphug.gif